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In the past year, I made many things happen.

But at the same time, I was running away from life. I was always staying busy. Hustling, as they say.

Every dead moment was spent creating, building an audience and checking in on Twitter.

I made free products, created ebooks, wrote newsletters, produced a podcast, build a few websites, tweeted on Twitter, posted on Instagram, shared things on Medium. I started and stopped many things, like this website, for example.

To some, all these efforts may look like success. I went from 55 followers to almost 2.2k on Twitter. I also made $500 in online sales.

And there was some other real success: I talked to incredible people and got better freelancing jobs.

But actually, this year was a bit of a failure.

Why?

Because I didn’t find time to read what I wanted to read. I didn’t have time for sports or meditation. Whenever I was with my daughter, I felt like I had to get back to work.

I always felt like I needed to do more. Influence more, build more, create more, hustle more.

More, more, more.

Well, I got more weight because I didn’t do sports and didn’t have time to eat healthily…

And when I found time to relax, it was time spent relaxing with family. I felt guilty for always being away so I always rested with them.

This means I rarely rested alone and hence rarely rested well.

And if I did have an empty moment in which all my projects were “finished” and all my notifications “checked”, I had to read a book for my podcast.

No, it wasn’t a success.

I worked hard to get passive income, hoping to enjoy life later. So I can travel later. So I can relax later. So I can read all the books I want to read later.

But why do something at the cost of my current life? There’s little time to relax. I’m always comparing. And there’s no time to do what I want to do:

Read, run, relate, relax.

It always reminds me of the businessman and fisherman, a story by Coelho.


Since we stopped writing on Top Three Guide, more people started discovering our advice. A few hundred people find us via their search engine now.

This makes me want to pick this project back up. But maybe it’s another false priority?

I should probably write a top 3 guide about priority 😉

Kjell VDV

Kjell Vandevyvere is a coaching and teaching enthusiast. He's always been fond of reading and writing. In Top Three Guide, he combines all his passions. A few months ago he could be found around Cochabamba’s classrooms and soccer pitches 7/7. Now, he’s living a monks life behind his computer. Some say he never stops learning or writing. Learn more about Loki and myself on the about us page.

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